Consider how stressful a move can be for an adult. Now imagine that same stress being felt by a child. Adults likely have the tools needed to help deal with the stress that moving brings, but a child will very likely have a difficult time coping. So we have included some tips for moving with small children.
First, they may not fully understand why your family is moving. And, even if they do understand the why, they will probably experience the fear of the unknown. What follows is a list of tips to use to help small children cope with a move. There are also tips for the adult to use, so that together as a family, you can support each other as you make this big life transition.
Be on the Same Page as Your Spouse
As you prepare for your big move, open the lines of communication with your spouse, and start to formulate a plan for moving that you both can follow. Despite your upcoming travels, whether they be big or small, you need to come up with a way to move that supports the well-being of your child. How can you make your child a priority while still getting everything done for your move? Make sure your whole family is getting enough sleep in the days leading up to the move.
Try to set a positive tone for every day, don’t let your child see you give into the stress of moving. This will be much easier to do if you and your spouse discuss what needs to be done before the move. Make a to-do list and assign tasks in a way that can be done as efficiently as possible.
Talk to Your Child About the Move
Sit your child down and gently let them know that your family will be moving to a new home, and if you are moving out of the state address that as well. Small children respond to repetition, so discuss the topic of moving frequently in the months, weeks, and day leading up to the move. You need to allow time for your child to get comfortable with the idea of moving.
Create a sense of security by reminding the child that EVERYONE in the house will be moving, and that your family is staying together. And be patient, allow the child to process the information. Older children may have questions, so please answer any questions big or small. This will show that you care about their feelings.
Let the Children Participate
Let your children help pack, even a young child can help pack up toys or clothes. Give them a few small boxes and while you help them pack, take the opportunity to check in with them. This is a great time reassure them about any doubts.
Also, praise them for their help! Point out how they are helping their family by packing up their toys. Bonus Tip: Color code your children’s boxes with different colored packing tape. That way they can always keep an eye on their belongings.
Perhaps even let them pick out the color of the packing tape to make them feel involved. Finally, once you are done moving, try to unpack their rooms first. This will help provide another layer of security for your child.
Say Goodbye to Your Old House
After you have packed everything up, and the house is empty, allow your child a chance to say goodbye to the house. Walk through each room and take your time. This will help your child with closure.
Introduce the Movers to Your Child
The reason you hire a moving company is to help minimize the stress of moving. Our movers realize that moving is hard, especially for children. Take the time to introduce small children to the movers. That way your child doesn’t feel like complete strangers are handling their belongings. This really does reduce the apprehensions of moving for little ones.
After the move
Before you tackle unpacking boxes, take a stroll around your new
neighborhood with your child. If you notice any neighborhood kids,
introduce yourself and family. It’s a
good idea to get to know the children in your neighborhood. And maybe a
new friendship could start. If your
child is of school age be sure to check it out before school starts. Research any extracurricular activities that
are offered at school, this will also help your child connect with peers.
Tips for moving with small children
We hope you enjoyed our tips for moving with small children.